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Dear anon, let me clear something up for you:

murderinthegarden:

Getting drunk to the point of not being able to make informed decisions, and then having sex IS RAPE

Getting high for the first time and having no idea what the fuck is going on, and then having sex IS RAPE

Going on a date and being coerced into having sex IS RAPE

Being forced to have sexual contact that you don’t want, be that sex without a condom, sex on your period, public sex, him insisting on a blowjob IS RAPE

Wanting to stay a virgin until marriage and having someone convince you and convince you and convince you for months that sex is okay, and then having sex IS RAPE

Saying NO, then having sex IS RAPE

Changing your mind during sex and not having that decision obeyed IS RAPE

Having one Smirnoff ice, dozing by a campfire with a female friend and her fiance, then waking up to the fiance having sex with you while you’re unconscious, sober, but don’t have a clue if you’re dreaming or not, and in any case certainly couldn’t consent to sex while sleeping, IS RAPE.

Being so scared that you’re shocked into submission, scared into submission, or just don’t feel like you have the energy to fight, IS RAPE.

Trying to file rape charges against someone, and being told that police are “unable to” IS STILL RAPE.

Having your safeword ignored IS RAPE.

Bottom line: If you’re a woman or a man, and you feel sex was against your will or that it caused personal trauma or that it was rape…YOU DEFINE RAPE, AND YOU DEFINE HOW YOU HEAL.

Okay so people who aren’t women or men and have “sex” without their consent aren’t being raped?

And saying no during something like consensual non-consent and still having sex is rape?

NO. OP learn a little bit first. Your intentions are good, but you’re ignoring people who aren’t binary-identified and/or people within the BDSM community who may or may not use feigned defiance as part of their play.

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